Goodbye to You

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Someone asked me recently what my playlist was when I was going through my divorce. I really had two different lists going. One when I was deciding to leave and one during the divorce. A lot of the songs overlapped, but it included the typical

  • Gives You Hell, All American Rejects (I sang the heck out of this at karaoke with the girls during this time.)
  • Happy Ending, Avril Lavigne
  • Single Ladies, Beyonce
  • Before He Cheats, Carrie Underwood
  • Forget You, CeeLo Green
  • Survivor, Destiny’s Child (this fueled many runs)
  • Independent Women, Destiny’s Child
  • Goodbye Earl, Dixie Chicks
  • I Will Survive, Gloria Gaynor
  • Roar, Katy Perry
  • Not Tonight, Lil Kim
  • Independence Day, Martina McBride
  • So What, Pink (this one too)
  • U + Ur Hand, Pink
  • F**kin’ Perfect, Pink
  • I’m Free, The Soup Dragons (this was on a fairly constant repeat, good thing it wasn’t vinyl)

And the not so typical:

  • Lady Marmalade – Christina Aguilera, Lil’ Kim, Pink, etc.
  • What a Girl Wants – Christina Aguilera
  • Hazy Shade of Winter, The Bangles
  • I Gotta Feeling, The Black Eyed Peas
  • Run It! Chris Brown
  • Rumors, Club Nouveau
  • With a Little Help From My Friends, Joe Cocker
  • Mr. Jones, Counting Crows
  • Jenny Says, Cowboy Mouth
  • Friday, I’m in Love, The Cure
  • Bless the Broken Road, Rascal Flatts
  • Times Like These, Foo Fighters
  • Hemorrhage, Fuel
  • Bittersweet, Fuel
  • Kiling Me Softly, Fugees
  • Army, Elle Goulding
  • Live Like You Were Dying, Tim McGraw
  • Nice to Know You, Incubus
  • The Way You Move, Ne-Yo
  • Once, Pearl Jam
  • Better Man, Pearl Jam
  • Goodbye to You, Scandal
  • Waterfalls, TLC
  • No Scrubs, TLC

But what I really curled up with was:

  • The Rose, Bette Midler
  • Wind Beneath My Wings, Bette Midler
  • I Hope You Dance, Lee Ann Womack

Each of those last songs has a special place and meaning in my heart. They each take me to a different place. I don’t necessarily recommend them (and frankly some of the ones above either) for getting through a divorce in general, but they helped me through mine. The last three songs don’t have anything to do with my children’s father and I think that is key for whichever songs you pick to help motivate you to that next phase in your life.